YOU CAN LOVE AGAIN...

Today I write to encourage all those who were once in love but later saw their relationship crash. Whether they walked out of the relationship by themselves or that you were the one who caused the break up, I am here to let you know that you can find love again.

Recently I chatted with a man and a lady at two separate instances. Being both victims of what seems to them unfair after having invested so much into their relationships for years, they vowed never to fall in love again. That's the experience of so many people out there.

I know some people are still regretting falling in love. Perhaps you are still cursing them for leaving you after all you did for them. Maybe you're now very bitter at guys or ladies, almost taking it personal with them. I must say I really sympathise with you. But please, before you make up your mind not to love again, I would like you to consider the following:

1. Love is mutual and reciprocal: In a relationship, one person alone doesn't do all the loving. Both of you must fall in love. That's a rule that must never be compromised.

2. If they left you, maybe they weren't meant for you: Sometimes, some relationships end to the benefits of both lovers. Maybe it is God's way of redirecting some people's lives because the pains of marrying someone who isn't meant for you could be devastating on the long run.

3. Don't take it personal: I will like you to see love like a job.  In life, some people's great jobs end abruptly. Some despite giving so much to a company are still shown the exit door. But the surprising thing about it all is that you will never see someone who has vowed never to work again because they were sacked from their previous place (s) of employment. Rather, you will see that individual all out looking for a new opportunity somewhere else. Like someone who has lost their so much cherished job but is looking for a new one, so also must be the attitude of a lover who lost their relationship.

4. Learn from your mistakes: In as much as I am encouraging you to fall in love again, this time around I will like you to be more careful and wiser than you were in the previous relationship. Avoid the mistakes of the past. Don't be foolish with your choice of a love partner. Don't commit yourself to someone who is not committing themselves to you too. Don't fall in love if they're not doing same. A child of God has no business dating an unbeliever let alone marrying them. On no account should you marry a cheat because cheating doesn't start overnight and that it takes deliverance from God to recover a cheat because cheating is a essentially a spiritual problem.

5. When you finally meet them, open your heart to them: One common thing that happens to lovers who have experienced a heart break is they become cynical and finds it difficult to love again because they've closed their hearts. However, remember you will find true love someday, therefore you must not be hardened otherwise you might miss them when they finally show up.

6. Learn more: Before you fall in love again, please add to your knowledge about relationship and marriage. Read relationship and marriage articles, buy books, attend relationship and marriage seminars, conferences, workshops or talk shows. Attend pre-marriage counseling or coaching sessions with your love partner.

As we all know, true love doesn't happen to all of us at the first attempt. Some people for one reason or another will get it wrong once or many more times. Whatever, the number of times you would have had a miss, no matter how heartbroken and emotionally traumatised you might be, the good news is that the true love you have always prayed to meet will soon locate you, or rather, you will soon locate them provided you trust God this time around like never before for his will, you will commit yourself to the rules of relationship and marriage, you will exemplify godliness and the fear of God and you won't give up on love until you experience it.

See you at the top!