BUILDING UP A HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM / SELF IMAGE.

HERE ARE STEPS TO A HEALTHY SELF ESTEEM/ SELF IMAGE .


1. GUARD YOUR SELF TALK:
Whether you are aware of it or not you are running conversation with yourself all the time, sit back at take note of the nature of conversations running through your mind , is it encouraging words? Do you critize yourself?  Is it positive word or negative words?
 Always try take note  the critical things you say to yourself. Avoid words like, “I just hate myself”, “I am good for nothing”, “why am I just like this”. Some of you will not even speak to your worst enemy the way you speak to yourselves, harsh inner voice just tears you down, and you speak with such disgust to yourself. If you’re in the habit of thinking negatively and critizing yourself , discipline yourself and stop it. At least be kind to yourself for Once.
Think more positive things about yourself. YOU HAVE ONLY THIS ONE LIFE YOUR BETTER CHERISH IT.

2. FOCUS ON YOUR ACCOMPLISHMENT:
Focus on what goes well for you. Beautiful ladies stop focusing so much on your problems. Next time you catch yourself dwelling on problems or complaints about yourself or your day, find something positive to counter it.
Each day, write down 3 good things about yourself and/or three things that went well that day because of your action or effort. Celebrate your small victories, you are encouraged when you celebrate yourself. Focus more on your victories not your problems. A problem is not a problem if it can't be solved it is a fact.  If you can change it fine go ahead and change it. And if you can't then don't ponder on it. It has a way of sticking your emotions negatively and finally affects your esteem.
Take a break and just celebrating yourself is good for you. Celebrating encourages you. It helps to inspire you to keep going. Don't underestimate the power of celebration. Take your self out  give yourself a part at the back, enjoy been with yourself and you will not need any one to compliment you.

3. AVOID LIMITING BELIEFS AIM FOR EFFORTS RATHER THAN PERFECTION:
Some people get held back by their own pressure to be perfect.  And because they feel they can't be perfect they rather not do anything and eventually   lose out because  they don’t try.
You must have faith in yourself. Believe you can accomplish great things.
The greatest limitation people experience on their lives are usually the once they impose on themselves .
There is no mountain  anywhere except the one you place for yourself. When you place a limit  on what you will do you have put a limit on what you can do.
Another thing, always view mistakes as learning opportunities. Accepts that you will make mistakes, everyone does. They are part of the learning process, rather than limiting yourself or thinking “will I mess up, I know myself, I always do, I am always the one people complain about. Just remind yourself that when I make mistake I have just learnt another way to do it. 

4. REMIND YOUSELF THAT EVERYONE EXCEL AT DIFFERENT THINGS:
Don’t compare your self to others. When you do two things do happen. Either you perceive that the person. In question is far ahead of you and that makes you feel discouraged or you perceive yourself to be better off and you then become proud. 
Neither is good for you.
You don't Need it at all it's nothing but distraction, You only have the responsibility to compare yourself with yourself. Where you were last t year and were you are now. Are you better off than yesterday? Focus on what you do well, become better everyday and cheer on others for their success. Dwell much on your strength rather than your weakness. Everyone is good at something. It helps you accept yourself and make the best of situation and avoid jealousy. 

5. TRY NEW THINGS AND GIVE YOURSELF CREDIT:
Explore and experience different activities to help you get in touch with your talents. Then take pride in your new skills. Display it, think about it think about the good results and give yourself a part at the back. Praise your strength. All this make you have good opinion about yourself and add up to yourself esteem.

6. ALWAYS  DO WHAT IS RIGHT:
One pretty way you build self esteem is by doing what is right and doing it excellently well. You feel very good and have a sense of satisfaction. 
But on the contrary you feel guilty and bad about yourself If you don't meet up to standard. Being true to yourself and your values is a tremendous self esteem builder and booster.Once you make up your mind to build your character by your daily actions,you become stronger as a person.

7. RECOGNIZE WHAT YOU CAN CHANGE AND WHAT YOU CANT:
If you realize that you’re unhappy with something about yourself that you can’t change (like getting to a healthy weight). Start today. If it is something you can’t change (like the size of your head, size of your breast or buttocks) please I advise work on accepting it. Look at the mirror and speak deeply to yourself “ I am fearfully and wonderfully made.
Obsessing about your flaws can really skew your opinion of yourself and bring down your self-esteem. Most of the time other people don’t even notice these things.

8. SET GOALS AND EMBRACE A POSITIVE VISION:
Think about what you’d like to accomplish. Set positive visions  for your life and take actions to fulfil  them.. Stick with your plan and keep track of your progress. Train your inner voice to remind you of what you are to accomplish. Take stack of your accomplishment. It makes you feel good, get busy doing something, get a life for yourself . Search Deeply And Find out what you really Love to do.

9. TAKE PRIDE IN YOUR OPINION AND IDEAS:
Don’t be afraid to ere your view or to voice them about any time. If someone disagree, its not a reflection on your worth (don’t always feel like that) or your level of intelligence. That person just sees things different from you. Many years ago I always never want to speak opinion and ideas during discussion. I will always say to myself, they will never see sense in it. This will always cut me short.
 Beloved for no reason would you say that someone else  is more intelligent or more superior than you or their ideas are better off. That feeling would de mean you at their sight. Everyone is different in  his or her own way.

10. ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS:
When self-esteem is too low it tries to overlook the good things people say about them. We don’t believe it when nice compliment are made, instead you feel and think you are flattered. We think yeah but I am not at all that great and we brush off the compliment rather than  appreciate it and take it seriously.

 11. MAKE CONTRIBUTIONS:   Life is all about giving, wherever you find yourself, ensure your presence is felt, and make a contribution help clean up your neighborhood. Participate in the group department, in the quiz, dance etc. when you see that what you do makes a whole lot of difference, its builds your positive opinion of yourself and makes you feel good. And you know your feeling is all about your self-esteem.

12. ADD VALUE TO OTHERS:
People with Low self esteem always feel inadequate and see themselves as victims and are more too conscious of themselve and this is a trace of selfishness and self protective.
So to come out of that try and consider others, serve others, let it be about others and not about yourself, add value to them, make a difference even If it is  a small one.
Do you know what? You go try it it's impossible to feel and about yourself when you are doing good to others.
Adding value to others makes others value you more. And that great a a positive feelings for you.


EXERCISE:
Being active and fit helps you feel good about yourself you will relieve stress and be healthier too

  RELAX AND HAVE FUN
Do you ever think stuff like I will have more friends, if I were more beautiful or more attractive,  If you think like this you set your path to low self-esteem because they focus on what is imperfect? Spend time with the people you care about, do the things you love and focus on what is good. That helps you feel good about yourself just as you are.